How do you deal with people that don’t believe in you?
I would first like to welcome you to week number one, installment number two of Random Writings, a blogging adventure that a small group of us have decided to delve into. This is very different from past blogs that I have posted, but I hope that both of you that read my old blogs will follow along and find some value in what I write. I also hope that either the sticky keys on my keyboard loosen up (thanks to a Sam Adams that decided to jump onto my laptop), or magically a new computer appears.
This blogging event is very basic at its core. Four people threw out questions and then we drew from a hat for what questions would be used and the order of the questions. Question numero uno- how do you deal with people that do not believe in you?
My answer:
F’em.
In all seriousness, this is something near and dear to my heart. I have two levels of conquests, big ones and HUGE ones.
When I have a big thought or conquest, I really tend not to ask any ones opinion, I just do it. If I have the gut feeling that it will work and I have the drive, I just go for it. I let people know that I am doing it, but really don’t care about what they thing. Yeah my ego is that BIG.
When I have a HUGE thought, I run into problems. When I mean HUGE thoughts, I mean life changing thoughts. Starting a new organization or company. Stepping way outside my boundaries that have been artificially set. Apparently I do not believe in myself enough to just make the change, so I tend to seek the opinion of others during these thoughts. If I believed in myself, I would just go with it as I do in most other situations, but at this point, for some reason, others opinions matter. Major FAIL. In the hopes of hearing rave reviews from others about my thought, unfortunately it has mainly been the opposite. I have run into a lot of resistance and negative opinions. Key players in my life have shit all over some of what I thought were some of my best ideas for businesses that have a huge potential for positive humanitarian change and personal sustainability.
So how do I deal with the negativity? Yes. Great question. I am still trying to figure that out. I have on a time or two gone ahead and made the move, but have been handed a big helping of failure once or twice. However I have come up with another theory that I am soon going to implement. Ask smart people. Ask people that have a positive outlook on life and our world. don’t ask people that I know are going to be naysayers. Ask people that are going to respond with a “Hell Yeah” instead of “Well, I dunno about that”. Yeah. I’m serious. That’s my “plan”.
So my challenge to you, (new readers- I like to give challenges) is to let me know if you would like to be supportive of some of my wonderfully zany ideas!
Requirements: Be intelligent (or at least be able to make an incomplete sentence make sense or articulately slur while drunk). Motivate me!
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Great insight Jeff! Similarly, I have learned to be very selective with whom I share my dreams with. Because I have found that if my dream falls outside their comfort zone, they will try to dissaude me using emotional tactics. Often fear. Even the people who love you the most can be frightened by your plans. But I have also learned that whatever comes out of their mouth is really an argument for their own limitations.
Having said this… I think we all need someone to champion our dreams. Someone to keep us accountable to them. Someone who will be there for us as we step out onto the “skinny branches”. Thankfully, I have people like that in my life. For them, I am so grateful.
Thanks for getting the wheels turning this morning : )
Great post, Jeff. Your attitude and outlook on this is perfect. Trust in yourself and seize the moments as they come.
Jeff, I am completely in love with this post. I love the way it progressed from a F’em attitude to the much more positive outlook of simply surrounding yourself with intelligent people. It’s such an easy way to change our lives and so often overlooked. Great post!
How do you know it is a bad idea until you try something.
I think if you sit down and put it on paper, with pros and cons of course,
and it looks like it will work. Do it!
Whats the old saying, nothing ventured,nothing gained.
As long as it is not illegal, go for it.
Im just full of colloquilisms (is that how its spelled?)
I think some of the best ideas have come from kooky ideas. Look at all the items you see on TV for 9.99 or 19.99. Ron Popiel was a prime example of this. And people actually buy that stuff!
This is very true Carol. Sometimes I lack the courage, but I guess that is a different topic in its own!
I agree, stop speaking to people about YOUR DREAMS who, themselves, have painted themselves into THEIR OWN BOX! I’ve done that time and time again and realize now that I AM SPEAKING TO THE WRONG PEOPLE! I’m constantly asking for AFFIRMATION from others about who I am. I understand now with the help of OPRAHS LIFE CLASS that those people are AFRAID, therefore, I need to seek out INTELLIGENT people to share my ideas and hopes and dreams with. I also understand that I’m afraid, afraid of failing, afraid of rejection, afraid at being laughed at, afraid of being talked about. No matter what level I am at, coming up, or going down the ladder, people are doing to talk about me. Pure and simple it is jealousy and I can no longer let that principle keep me IN MY BOX!!!